Woman Sells Virginity
In one of the most disturbing and saddening stories I’ve heard in a while, a young lady is auctioning off her virginity to the nigh highest bidder. Natalie Dylan (not her real name) is making the sale via the Moonlight Bunny Ranch, a brothel in Neveda, where prostitution is legal (and make no mistake, this is prostitution).
“Natalie” states that this auction is part of an overall experiment, one that examines the “dicotomous nature” of virginity and prostitution. What can we say about this? What does this say about our cultural assumptions? Is “Natalie’s” virginity merely a commodity, one to be bought and sold to the highest bidder? Is sexuality something that can be mechanically separated from the rest of life? After hearing her speak (which is always helpful to avoid demonizing someone), there’s no doubt that “Natalie” is an intelligent woman. But, nevertheless, the love of money and the lust for upward mobility is surely playing a motivating role in her decision making .
Dylan says she has no moral issues with auctioning off her virginity. “I don’t have a moral dilemma with it,” she says. “We live in a capitalist society. Why shouldn’t I be allowed to capitalize on my virginity? I understand some people may condemn me, but this is empowering. I’m using what I have to better myself.”
The interesting thing is that twice (here and in one other place) she repeats the phrase, “I’m using what I have to better myself.” I think the key term here is myself. So far, i’ve heard that bids are up into the 3 million dollar mark. Will this type of money help Ms. Dylan to pay off some bills? Surely it will. But, how does one woman’s experiment influence a future generation of girls that want money to fulfill their dreams? And, moreover, regarding her “experiment”, what does it say about the (moral) limits of knowledge acquisition?
Ms. Dylan may not want to set an example for other girls, but she in fact is. More people are influenced by her public actions than she cares to admit. When someone has nothing else with which to “better themselves” what are they left to? What is the one thing that they can offer that they can know for sure someone, somewhere, will be willing to pay top dollar for? Their virginity. This flips the entire notion of waiting for sex on its head. The biblical model instructs us to wait for the purposes of sacrificial love, giving ourself for the building up of our spouse. Natalie’s approach encourages (or, at least, models) the practice of abstinence for self promotion, and power grabs. As Bunny Ranch owner Dennis Hof put it, “Why lose it to some guy in the backseat of a Toyota when you can pay for your education?”
Second, are they not certain things that we shouldn’t learn by throwing ourselves into? Is it necessary for her to make herself a guinea pig?
This is a new low. What Ms. Dylan thinks of as empowering is in reality, in God’s world, dehumanizing. I hurt for her because she has both undervalued sex and overvalued it at the same time.
Please pray for “Natalie Dylan.” Pray that God would open her eyes to her real value as the image of God. Pray that God would open her eyes to the glory and beauty of Christ. Pray that she would not go through with her plans to market her virginity for Mammon. And pray that she would be surrounded by mature Christians that can lovingly and wisely guide her out of flirtation with prostitution.